More Than Serving Tea



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  1. * swithrowking says:

    We talked about imposter syndrome here a few months ago. We all, even the men in our organization, struggled with it. I love the adage “fake it ’til you make it” but I’d also add “ask for help when you need it.” I’m my own harshest judge, though, and feel like a fake in school, at work…all the time, really. When I ramble in blog comments, I feel like a fraud. (sigh)

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    • * Kathy Khang says:

      I ramble in my blog posts. But I don’t care. It’s my blog;)

      Do you think the impostor syndrome plays out differently for men? In the end there are still more men ‘at the table’ so even if they feel like fakes do they fake their way out better?

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      • * swithrowking says:

        Yes, absolutely. And they’re taught that they do belong, so they perhaps don’t have the double hurdle that some women do. When I second guess myself, I have that “women are made for some things and men for others” voice in my head. Men are at least (often) told that this position of power is theirs for the taking. Of course, these are huge generalizations and simplifications of a complex issue…just offering a possibility.

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  2. I read Lean In this summer and resonated with so much of what Sandberg had to say. She articulated things I have felt or experienced and not always known how to discuss. I can definitely relate to sometimes feeling like a fake.

    Thank you, too, for this nuanced perspective and the inclusion of cultural factors. That is so important to consider as well. Great read! Thanks!

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    • * Kathy Khang says:

      And thanks for the tweet!

      How have you worked your way out of the impostor syndrome cycle? Has faking it helped or does someone smack you into reality, which is what my editor did for me?

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  3. * M Southall says:

    Ha ha. Always remember, B.S. can get you to the top, but it can’t keep you there.

    You’re normal, unlike the sociopaths who make up more than their share of CEOs.

    And… Anglos have no more right to be “American” than you do. And that includes your parents. (As American Indians, we tend to forgive everyone who forgets or never knew how “America” came to be.)

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